by Cremation Association
Memorialization is a time-honored tradition that has been
practiced by caring people through the centuries. As survivors
we care about and want to remember those who precede us in
death. Memorialization helps us to remember and to be
remembered.
Selecting and establishing a permanent memorial for a family
member or loved one not only satisfies an immediate need, but it
also fulfills the need to preserve our heritage. Memorials are
stepping-stones to the past, and to the future. They link the
generations.
Many people mistakenly believe that the process of cremation -
reducing human remains to bone fragments - is an end in itself,
but it is not. Cremation is preparation for memorialization just
as is traditional burial. In fact, the options for the final
disposition of cremated remains and the subsequent memorials
used to honor them are many and varied.
It is never too soon to set up a visual symbol in beautiful
surroundings that will perpetuate cherished memories. But
beautiful memorials don't just happen. They require forethought
and planning. Many families make their memorial selections in
advance so that decision-making can be done together and can be
eliminated during a time of stress. But whether a memorial
purchase is made prior to need or at the time of need, you will
want to be familiar with the many cremation memorial options
that are available.
A columbarium is an indoor or outdoor wall containing niches. A
niche is defined as a recessed compartment designed to hold
urns. Columbariums may be an entire building, a room, a wall
along a corridor or a series of special alcoves or halls in a
mausoleum, chapel, or other buildings located in a cemetery or
on other dedicated property. Niches come in many sizes with a
selection of fronts such as glass, marble, bronze, granite or
mosaic. Glass fronts may be clear, tinted, frosted or etched.
Some columbarium niches are designed for specific size urns hile
others may contain a double size space for two urns or even
larger niches for multiple urns. Some clear glass fronted niche
allow meaningful memorabilia to be placed inside along with the
urn.
Many cemeteries or memorial parks have areas designated
specifically for the interment of cremated remains. These areas
are called Urn Gardens and are set aside for those who desire
ground or above-ground interment. Some gardens offer individual
urn burial plots that will accommodate a marker. Others offer
unmarked areas for interment of the urn, with adjacent walls or
sculptures for memorial plaques. Check with your cemetery or
memorial park on the types of permanent memorialization they
offer for garden interment of cremated remains.
If you already own a burial plot or have a space in a family
lot, you may choose to inter the cremation urn there. Cemeteries
often permit the interment of the cremated remains of more than
one person in a single adult space. Or if you wish to be
interred in a family plot, but do not want ground interment,
there are monuments available to house the cremated remains.
These monuments can be used for those who have chosen cremation
or in combination with family members who have chosen casketed
burial. Grave site committal of the urn is available and some
cemeteries require that the urn be placed in an urn vault for
interment.
There are a wide variety of markers and monuments available but
you should check your cemetery's rules before purchasing your
memorial. The monument or marker you select will be a lasting
genealogical record for the generations of your family and a
lasting symbol of the special life you want to remember and
commemorate.
In recent years some cemeteries have opened areas to scatter
cremated remains. Called Scattering Gardens, they provide
choices for personal memorialization within this dedicated
property. Often individuals whose remains have been scattered in
the garden are identified on a special memorial plaque, wall or
unique work of art on which the names are inscribed. Some
cemeteries also have benches on which a plaque may be attached
or a living memorial, such as tree, where a plaque may be placed
in front of it.
Some cemeteries offer memorializing an individual with an entry
in a Book of Memories or Remembrance located in a chapel or
mausoleum on the cemetery grounds. These entries, beautifully
executed in calligraphy and often illuminated in the manner of
ancient manuscripts, provide a personal lasting tribute.
The scattering of cremated remains also may be done at a
designated geographical spot on land or in water in accordance
with federal, state/provincial or local laws. If scattering is
done, it is recommended that arrangements also be made for a
permanent memorial that will provide a place of pilgrimage for
those who want to remember and celebrate the life of a loved
one.
Urns for the permanent containment of cremated remains come in a
variety of sizes, styles and materials. In fact, there are urns
to satisfy every taste, requirement and, as well as, every
budget. You may select an urn from bronze, pewter, marble,
granite, brass or from selected hardwoods. They are also
available in porcelain, ceramic, stone, hand-blown glass and
cloisonn?Urns range in size from single to multiple capacity,
and in styling from the traditional book shape and classic
Grecian design to novel creations and decorative art pieces and
can be personalized to depict an individual's hobby or special
interest. Some designs have a matching picture frame to display
a photo of the individual being memorialized.
Many urns are also produced in smaller versions to hold a small
portion of the remains. These are referred to as Keepsake Urns.
They are especially appropriate when only a portion of the
cremated remains are to be scattered or when families choose to
divide the cremated remains among family members. Other
innovative options available are:
• Decorative pendants, known as Keepsake jewelry, are
available in a number of styles and are designed to hold a small
portion of cremated remains;
• Memorial Glass sculptures where a portion of the
cremated remains are permanently embedded in the glass of these
fine art pieces;
• Memorial Tablets where the cremated remains are
integrated into a granite-like material suitable for placement
in a cemetery, church memorial garden, or placed in the ground.
Presentation urns, which are large enough to hold a temporary
urn, are also available for use at a memorial or religious
service, when a family is undecided as to the final disposition
of the cremated remains. With so many beautiful and unique urns
available, you may have difficulty in making a selection. But
before making a final decision, it must be decided where the
cremated remains will be placed.
If it is going to be placed in a columbarium niche, what size
and shape urn can it accommodate? Will it be interred in an urn
garden or family plot? Do you need an urn vault? Does your
cemetery or columbarium require a specific type of urn be used?
These are some of the things you should take into consideration
before you make your selection.
Although the selection of a cremation memorial may be
time-consuming and require some important decision-making, once
it has been accomplished it will give you and the generations
that follow much satisfaction. Permanent memorialization not
only provides a lasting tribute to a loved one, but also gives
peace of mind and a place of pilgrimage. Caring about and
remembering others are what life and memorializing are all
about.